Let’s Be Kids Again, Let’s Question Life

There was this period in my life when I was particularly annoying as a kid. I am certain some of you can relate to this as well. In my defence, I wasn’t trying to play punk. I was genuinely driven by this strong desire to know something. I was curious. I would ask the question — “Why?” too many times in a day with a string of other Ws and H to end off my perfect combo. Initially, all was well. People around me, including my parents, teachers and friends, were more than willing to quench my thirst for knowledge. However, I was soon hushed for questioning too much about the world. At that age, we didn’t have the mental faculty to decipher if our questions were irrelevant, our behaviours were abrupt and rude, or a mix of both. What we did understand was that we did something wrong between the point from asking a question to deriving at a conclusion we could make sense of. As a result, we stopped questioning everything.

It wasn’t necessarily the case that we were not inquisitive, it was just that we felt wrong acting on our curiosity.

What makes us truly unique as an individual is the beliefs that we hold and the values we stand for. However, it is worrying to know that at a young age, our beliefs and values are so easily eroded by our surroundings. This issue needs to be addressed. I believe some of our childhood pains, such as numbing of our inquisitive nature, we experienced gradually forms certain beliefs that later on become such deeply-entrenched values. As we grow older, we find that these values are so ingrained within us, we hardly doubt them anymore. Many of us started out a little bit like that when we were kids. But as we grow up, we get whacked by the realities and responsibilities of life.

Each time we get hushed for doing something we intuitively feel that it is right to do so, we lose a bit of that magic. Our magic.

As a consequence, we find that a lot of people across different age groups are lost in life. The cause of this is simply because, we’ve been told in one way or another, not to question so much. Along the way, we didn’t stop to question our religion. We didn’t stop to question our societal rules. We didn’t stop to question the idea of a college degree. We didn’t stop to ask the question — “Why?” All we’ve been or are actually doing right now is checking off the series of ticks we presumably have to go through in order to reach this ideal state of being better than who we were the day before. At first glance, it seems logical. We want to attend school, get good grades, get a good job and live a good life. However, let’s take a moment to bring out the kid in us.

Let’s be annoying once more.

What if the series of ticks isn’t meant for everyone, especially you? What if your suppressed belief system don’t go in line with what you’ve been raised to believe in? A good example is the education system. Why are we attending school for? Why would we ever want to graduate from learning? All of us today walk around with the equivalent of a freaking super computer in our pockets, and on this computer, we can pull up almost any information that we need. Yet, the current education system is teaching us things that we can Google within seconds. Wouldn’t it be better if schools can teach us on other subject matters such as how to lead a fulfilling life, how to be a great lover, how to stay physically fit, how to treat people, how to get on stage and share an idea, how to create residual streams of passive income? Also, what poses as another challenge is that more often than not, colleges do not have the best teachers; they have the best researchers.

Unless you are training to be a doctor, a lawyer, an accountant or any career that requires a certification, you don’t really need to spend up to 4 years of your life on a college degree.

How about a good life? Everyone would agree that what makes a good life to you may not be good for someone else. If that is the case, then why are we subscribing ourselves to the same list when all of us are different to begin with? Since we know that our definition of a good life needs to be individuated by ourselves, we can start by asking — “What kind of experiences do I want in my life?” What kind of house do I want to live in? Where would I like to travel to? What type of family life do I prefer? Who do I want to wake up to every morning? It is insane that the society has embedded this particular notion in us that the experiences we are after cost a lot, when in fact, it is just a bubble of distorted truth.

When we are able to pinpoint to the exact experiences we are after, not the ones we are pressurised to have, we realised that some of our most beautiful experiences in life do not require that much money.

At this point in time, we have to ask ourselves — “Why can’t we have these experiences right now? How do I have to grow in order to have all of these experiences in the future?” The evolution of human being is an exemplary indicator of how we are driven by growth, so there is no excuse to any one of us that we are unable to become better than who we were yesterday. If one of the experiences you are after is to climb a huge mountain, then you need to start climbing small mountains and improve along the way. If one of the experiences you are after is to be the top entrepreneur, then you need to start creating businesses, and similarly improve along the way. If the experiences that you are after does not match up with the series of ticks you are currently checking off right now, why are you still going through it? It is only when we are inquisitive, then can we see a clearer picture. It is only when we start to question the various things in life, and not sweep it under the rug, then can we cut down on the unnecessary steps and distractions to get what we truly want. In order to propel us forward in the right direction, we need to recognise that we are our own problem and solution.

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Terence C.

There is a fine line between fishing and doing nothing. We would like to think that we’re fishing, but the truth is we don’t have the line.