What Is Urgent May Not Be Important

It seems like when we reach a certain age in our lives, people around us start to ask the same kinds of questions: “What are we actually after? Ultimately, what do we want?” It isn’t the case that we’ve not thought of these questions before, but chances are, our priorities has always been what is urgent as compared to what is important to us.

This is particularly prominent when we’re in our twenties, we are pulled in a hundred different directions.

We put so much emphasis onto completing a particular task by a given deadline, be it school or work. Yet, there are times when we question ourselves as to — “why am I doing this?” More often than not, we dismiss the question as a stupid one with a light head shake and a mild smile on our faces. But really, is it? Is it a stupid question? Because, what is right in front of you, may not be what you want in the end. What you think needs to be done now, may not be what you want to achieve in the future. A telltale sign is when you spend more time complaining about what you’re doing than actually doing it. Then, it is strongly advisable that you do not dismiss the question, instead, get to the root of it. Many people would probably curse silently and move on. What about you? Are you coming from a place of love or hate? If you’re moving on, where are you moving on to next?

More importantly, do you think you’re on the right track?

To a fish, water is so ubiquitous; it ceases to exist. We may just be like fishes in the sea, and what is ubiquitous around us, is our belief system. Chances are, most of our beliefs wrap around the idea of being safe, simple and stable. What if safe, simple and stable isn’t what we want, but we led ourselves to believe so? What if we’ve been living on the warped invisible assumption that this is the kind of life that we are after? It is not wrong that we’re constantly on the move in doing what we’re doing, but once in a while, it is especially important for us to question why we are doing what we are doing. Are we attending classes, because our parents want us to? Are we attending classes, because we want to learn something that may prove to be useful? Are we attending classes, because it seems like we ought to? Similarly, are we working, because it is the right thing to do? Are we working, because it pays our bills? Are we working, because we get to have expensive meals? These questions can stretch further to how you spend every single minute in a day.

I’m not worried that you don’t have the answers to these questions, I’m worried that the answers aren’t yours.

We spend so much time on the Internet finding solutions to problems. If we have a problem, we can Google it, find the solution and apply the fix. We do this process over and over again where we leave most, or perhaps even all of our thinking to our fingers, we unknowingly become more of a machine and less of a human. Don’t get me wrong, I love the efficiency of it. Because of this, I believe we have no issues when it comes to the extension of our lives. However, what about the quality of it? There are some questions that cannot be answered, not because there are no answers, but the answers need to come from you.

What is safe, simple and stable might be the ideal state of lifestyle the person sitting next to you desire, heck, it might even be the ideal state of lifestyle 90% of the population desire, but what is definitive for them may not be for you.

Take a close look at what you’re inching away from and inching towards in your life. Start asking questions of yourself, and answer them on our own. What do you want? Who do you want to be? If you’re lost and you do not know which track to be on, it is perfectly fine. Begin by taking baby steps to eliminate distracting options around you. Take your time and have an honest evaluation of yourself. Is what you’re doing taking you a step closer to what you want to do and who you want to be? Never allow yourself to be a prisoner of your own circumstances, it simply boils down to whether you want to be a victim, or a victor. Please understand that something that is pleasurable for someone else, may be painful to you. As such, the last thing you want to do is to seek validation from someone else to lead your life.

There is a fine line between fishing and doing nothing. We would like to think that we’re fishing, but the truth is we don’t have the line.